‘Its given me so much confidence!’—An erotic dancer reveals what it’s really like to work in a strip club
As a self-confessed dancing queen and lingerie-lover, Stephanie Lane opens up about her decision to become a pole dancer.
Having now worked as a lap dancer for four years, she reveals what work is really like for our girls and how she fits her job around her life as a Postgraduate university student.
How did you get into lap dancing?
Well I’ve always enjoyed dancing. Whenever my girlfriends and I went on nights out I was never afraid to be the first one on the dance floor!
I got into lap dancing when I was finishing my undergraduate degree. At the time I was living with a girl who was already working in a club and she suggested I go down for a trial. She made it sound so fun, so I didn’t take much convincing!
What specifically made you want to do it?
I was actually really intrigued, and to be honest seeing how much money my flat mate came back with was a great incentive.
Do you remember your first night?
Yes—I was so nervous!! My first shift was actually in the afternoon- they offer new girls the day shift to start with as it’s not so daunting. I spent the whole morning worrying about if I could go through with it!
I started my shift off as a host—just serving drinks and talking and flirting with the customers. That was good because I could watch the girls on the poles and gain my confidence. Eventually we all had to rotate positions so it was my turn on the stage. I was nervous but by the end I was getting quite into it!
It wasn’t long before I did my first private dance, too. For some reason I remember being surprised that I was asked on my first shift—but that was a little confidence boost in itself.
What happens when you’re asked to do a lap dance?
After you finish your rounds on the poles you’ll come down from stage and walk around interacting with customers, just talking to them and making sure they’re having a good time.
Giving a lap dance is just another part of the job. Each time it’s exhilarating, and I personally get a bit of a buzz from it. When you’re talking to the customer before hand you get a feel of what they’re into. They might say “I like a dominant woman”…and then you just play up to that roll. You get a lot more money for giving private dances, so it’s great!
What did you enjoy about the job?
Each day at the club feels different, so it’s never mundane. I’ve made so many friends from stripping as you meet new girls each week. When you’re all good friends, even slow days in the club are a lot of fun.
Also, the flexibility. You can choose when you come in so whenever I have a lot of deadlines I can give myself fewer shifts. I can plan it around my lectures too—I often go in for the day shift after morning lectures then I’ll be done and home by the early evening.
Are there any downsides?
The blisters!! Eight-hour shifts dancing around in massive heels can be tough. I’d never give them up though—they make me feel too sexy!
Did you ever feel uncomfortable or unsafe?
It never felt unsafe as some people may think. The club managers and security are wonderful; they always put our safety first. The only time I felt uncomfortable was my first week as it’s nerve-wracking! But once I get on stage I find it so fun that the nerves disappear. The customers can be very supportive too.
There’s a misconception that most dancers would rather not be there, is that the case at all?
I wouldn’t think so. This type of dancing is an art—sure, it’s also a great source of income—but women pole dance and strip because they enjoy it.
For me personally, I love it. It’s empowering, fun and it’s given me so much confidence. It fits to my lifestyle and I’ve been able to continue my studies and finish my postgraduate degree without racking up loads of debt. I now know I’ll be able to start a new career and return to it whenever I want—I know I’m definitely going to miss it!